• Parents and Caregivers: Were your emotional needs consistently met? Did you feel secure and loved? Or were there periods of neglect, inconsistency, or conditional love? These experiences can dramatically impact your ability to trust and bond with others.

• Siblings: Sibling relationships, whether nurturing or fraught with competition, can influence how you navigate conflict and cooperation in adult relationships.

• Friends and Peers: Bullying, social exclusion, or experiences of belonging during childhood can impact your self-esteem and how confidently you express yourself in relationships. Understanding your attachment style is about gaining clarity. It’s about recognizing the patterns you’ve developed and understanding why you react to relationship dynamics in certain ways. For instance:

• Anxious Attachment: You might crave constant reassurance, worry about abandonment, and struggle with feelings of insecurity.

• Avoidant Attachment: You may find it difficult to get close to others, value independence above connection and tend to shut down emotionally when things get intimate.

• Secure Attachment: You are comfortable with intimacy, trust easily, and feel confident expressing your needs.

Many of us have a combination of the styles but usually predominantly leaning more towards one style than another. Relationship coaching helps you identify your specific tendencies and provides tools to move towards a more secure and fulfilling way of connecting, and vitally learning about yourself.